Sunday, August 17, 2008

Beginnings

Hey kids. To give you some idea of when I'm writing this: I'm watching you my son, playing Spyro on our knackered old playstation. You're only wearing your red pants because it's August, and as hot as a big pile of hot things. Your sister is sitting on the floor nearby; it's well past her bedtime - she's just demanded that her nappy be removed for the umpteenth time and we are no doubt just waiting for the next surprise puddle of wee.

So, how am I going to do this..? Part of me wants to structure everything, part of me just wants to kick back and ramble on about this and that. call me a lazy old dog, but I think the ramble part wins - I can always go back and edit later. Or not.
I've been thinking a lot about confidence, how to win it, how to fake it, where to find it in the first place. A lot of people never find it their entire lives - they remain shrinking violets, ever at the beck and call of others, toadying up to whoever's got the best posture in the room. These poor unconfident sods however are unfortunately the people who run the shop, society-wise. Beware of offending them, for they can be merciless. But, I'm getting a bit ahead of myself.
There are a few common sayings that show the way I think:
  • "Never judge a book by it's cover."
  • "Clothes do not make the man."
  • "Just be yourself."
  • "It's what's on the inside that matters."
They show the way because they are all hopelessly and utterly wrong.
TBC.

note: 2010 jun. Obviously my stock of wisdom amounted to less that I'd estimated... LOL.

Saturday, August 16, 2008

Wisdom..?

Living a life isn't rocket science, if it were then the total population of the Earth would amount to, well, bugger all.

But, hell, if you read the self-help books or any of the other assorted manuals of happiness you'd have to guess that anyone who finally did manage to achieve some degree of contentment during their lifespan must have had three degrees in psychology and a whole bucketload of cash.

Which is bollocks.

So, a new label - "Wisdom..?" - for a new kind of post: the kind that might be helpful to my son and my daughter as they grow up, and face the various shit that life will sling at them.

Hey kids. This is your Daddy's version of all the conversations I never had with your Gran and Grandad - my father and mother - all the question-and-answer sessions they dodged, or left just too damn late to make any difference to my life. I'm not condemning, they kept a roof over my head, and yours too at times, and fed me up big and strong, kept me in school... But... Well, there are always buts, I have mine, just as you will undoubtably have your own buts with me and your Mum.

So - For what it's worth - contained in these posts will be the things about life I wish I'd known just a little bit earlier than I did. Or at least my view of what's important to remember when life throws you a curve. You can agree, disagree or simply laugh at your old, stupid father and his silly ideas, but hey, you never know, they might just help.
Love you both.

Wednesday, August 13, 2008

Wednesday, August 06, 2008

Love, love, love....


You know, I look around and I see pretty much the whole world in cahoots about love and romance.

It makes me smell a rat.

The media - "ain't love grand."
The family - "ain't love grand."
The peer-group - "ain't love grand."
The politicos - "ain't love grand."
Instinct - "ain't love grand."

And yet, by far the second most popular pastime, after we have finished tootling around telling all and sundry "That love thing yeah - it's just so damn grand isn't it..?" is... Trashing the opposite sex.

As much as men love women, we also, at times, seem to hate their fucking guts. And as much as women love men, they also, quite a lot of the time, seem to hate our fucking guts too.
...Continued...

Friday, August 01, 2008

Personal Reality.


What is the 'real' colour of an orange..? I'm a touch red/green colourblind - so my version of orange, and your version of orange is different. But as long as my 'orange' remains consistant from day to day, I can interact with it unimpaired. The question remains though - which orange, yours or mine, is more 'real'..?

Existance and reality are tricky terms. Common sense would dictate that "that which is real, exists" and equally, "that which is exists, is real."

Which leaves us exactly nowhere. Which makes me think of trees and falling and no-one being there. I dunno, perhaps I'm trying to edge toward "That which is noticed, exists", or "That which is real, leaves a mark somewhere."...Continued...